LIFE LAB 180º: Be Water My Friend.

Screen Shot 2015-05-29 at 6.22.20 PM“Challenge is the pathway to engagement and progress in our lives. But not all challenges are created equal. Some challenges make us feel alive, engaged, connected, and fulfilled. Others simply overwhelm us. Knowing the difference as you set bigger and bolder challenges for yourself is critical to your sanity, success, and satisfaction.”

-Brendon Burchard

LIFE CHART #1: There is no doubt in my mind that life takes twists and turns that we never see coming. In the past year I have finished graduate school, moved to a new city, spent time looking for a job, continue to look for a suitable home for my son and me, had to have much work done on my car, had to share a home with a family, and starting June 1 I will begin a doctoral program.

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Just a few weeks ago I went home to Ohio (Go Cavs!) to see my niece graduate from high school. Without a doubt it was the most exhausting and exciting time I have spent at home in a long time. While there I spent time with my brother and sister together. It is a rare occasion for me to be with them both because we all live in different parts of the U.S. There are no words for the enjoyment I get from being around and with them.


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On top of it all, my nephew was in a national robotics competition that I got to see. The same weekend was the 1st birthday of my little cousin, the cutest 1- year old I know. At the end of it all, my son and I ended up taking my sister to Yellow Springs, Ohio to see her bestie since preschool. And, with that my son got to reconnect with a friend, go downtown, and hang out.


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We spent the night, but had to get back on the road to Arlington, a 15+ hour drive. On the way home, he expressed his desire not to leave Ohio, but to be close to family and live in a small town – his little brother lives there. He got to spend time with him. Being away from family, I know, has been a thing for him for a while. And so it begins – for me. I do miss family, however, there is a pull to create the life I see here.


The road stream that has brought us to Arlington has been filled with rocks, waterfalls, and some rip currents. On the drive back to Texas, it came to my mind that I am at another phase of life. We share a great home and love it, but need to move. I continue to look for a position that affords me what I want and need both in a career and financial compensation. What I know is that places like education, experience, innovation, and all of that yet they do not want to pay for it (see my LinkedIn profile if you are interested). My heart is all for families and youth especially youth who have been in foster care, are aging out/transitioning, and involved with juvenile justice. Additionally, when I think about them I desire to work with the organizations that interact with them. That is one of the reasons for my doctoral pursuit in industrial and organizational psychology. With all of that in mind, I thought about how water flows where there are openings or creates a path, but it keep flowing. So, I created that I am open to whatever comes in the way of career openings. If that is in Ohio I will pursue it. If it is in Arlington, I ill pursue it. No matter where it is I will be like water.

“You must be shapeless, formless, like water. When you pour water in a cup, it becomes the cup. When you pour water in a bottle, it becomes the bottle. When you pour water in a teapot, it becomes the teapot. Water can drip and it can crash. Become like water my friend.” – Bruce Lee


As a result, I am taking on a 33 day personal challenge that will open up areas of life I have barely tapped, change relationships, and transform who I know myself to be. For the most part, it is my intention to secure a position with youth and families that pays well and allows me to use my skills, experience, knowledge, and desire to expand the organization. Next, identify a home that fits my desires, can house my son and me, and has room for family to visit and for me to entertain through cooking with an outdoors area. Then, the last are to experience myself as intentionally powerful, alive, audacious, and peaceful.

So, Life Lab 180º is my little expression of what is going on as it unfolds. THIS is not like other blog posts simply because my perspective is share with other who may be in the same space. Maybe something I am doing will encourage or spark a new idea to further their life. Join me for the next 33 days, check out the pictures, plans, achievements, disappointments, challenges, and take on a journey for yourself.


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